How to Talk to Your Child About Substance Abuse

Here are a few tips to get you started having conversations with your children about substances. It is not a question of if you should talk with them, but when and how!

1. Start Conversations Early

Conversations should start BEFORE there is a problem or suspected use. Early conversations allow children to gain understanding and have an opportunity to ask questions, while minimiing inaccurate information from peers or other outside resources. We want to let them know you are open, comfortable, and available to discuss challenging topics that naturally draw in curiosity. Conversations can start as early as fourth grade and continue during middle school and beyond as the pressure to try substances grows.

2. Keep Conversations Age-Appropriate

Aim for the conversation to match a child’s age, maturity level, and emotional capacity. As your child enters middle school, conversations may stem from asking what they’ve heard or may already “know.” Teens can generally tolerate discussions around the dangers of using substances and consequences surrounding: injury, legal trouble, fines, etc.

3. Be Authentic and Honest

When they present themselves, take advantage of authentically created teachable moments. A commercial promoting beer or cigarette use comes on during family movie night may present an opportunity to talk with your children about the dangers of alcohol and/or tobacco products and how they can negatively impact the body. These early conversations can help lead to discussing the use of other substances down the road.